Living a Life You Choose

By Trina Skidmore

Do you ever wonder what you stand for and what will be your legacy? Are you living the life you dreamt of by making conscious, fulfilling decisions, or letting life pass you by?

In this thought provoking and enlightening book, organisational development specialist and executive coach Trina Skidmore, acts as our guide to help us find answers to these questions and more.

Trina reveals how understanding ourselves is the key to understanding others, and the way we manage relationships. Subconscious or programmed thoughts and actions, or simply responses to which we have given little thought, often control us. Discovering more about our beliefs, values and inner vows, helps us find the key to unlocking our subconscious thoughts and actions. In turn this will help us understand the daily – and hourly – impact our thinking has on the choices we make at work and at home.

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Penny Blomfield

Registered Nurse NSW
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'Living A Life You Choose' is a skilfully written handbook for an adaptive, balanced and functional life! There really is something for everyone in this book; whether you're mature aged and feeling pretty sorted, a young person on the cusp of adulthood confused about how you fit into the world, or going through tough times - you will find valuable, practical and intelligent guidance here, delivered in Trina's wonderfully engaging style.

David Franklin

Flt Lt - RAAF
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'Living a Life You Choose' is the book you've been looking for, even if you don't know it! Beautifully written and carefully constructed to step you through the foundations of personal growth and change.  Exceptionally approachable with real life stories that demonstrate the power of everyday decisions.  A great self coaching book that is applicable to everyone, from the coaching professional to the high school student, the CEO to the intern and everyone in between.  Take the first step and start reading, you have nothing to lose and a life to gain!

Louise Smith

Clinical Nurse Specialist Mental Health
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In 'Living a Life You Choose' Trina certainly follows thru with her intention of assisting others to connect with their own communication style, and to then look closer at how to connect with those in their life. By drawing on relevant personal and business examples Trina opens the door for the reader to look at ways to make the choices that will enhance both of these arenas for themselves. The books well balanced and free flowing style results in the readers engagement and a clear comprehension. This then results in clear thinking for the reader!

Julie Gillick

Headmistress at Frensham
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Clever, kind and compelling...all in one...and perfect length to convey the messages - with colourful personal stories and reflections.

Russell Coward

Owner Minuteman Press Hills District
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It's a book that all teenagers, young adults and in fact all of us should read; to learn, remember and live by.

Angela

Sydney, NSW
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Thanks so much for your wise words Trina. I read the book in one sitting and thought it was wonderful...insightful and practical. A credit to what has been a lot of hard work and listening to people. Looking forward to the next one and you have given all who read the book a lighter skip in their step!!

A Note From The Author


The idea for this book came to me many birthdays ago sitting on a rock while watching children play in the ocean. I realised although we were taught the three Rs in school of reading, writing and ’rithmetic, arguably the three most important Rs of life – undeRstanding, Respect and Responsibility – are not formally taught. Our family, our teachers, our community and friends all play a large role in forming these life skills, but from my experience the gap between knowledge and authentically incorporating these life skills, is vast.

For this reason, I wanted to provide a foundation and a set of guiding principles that if we are willing to embrace, will free us to truly live a life of choice. People often comment to me that life would be far easier if only the other person would change their ways. Actually, the real change lies in knowing ourselves more deeply and how we view the situation which empowers us to positively influence these relationships and situations – our emotional intelligence.

Arguably, in business today it is this emotional intelligence capability which is businesses biggest challenge. To understand ourselves more candidly, to be congruent to who we are at work to who we are at home, to sincerely want to understand others in order to constructively influence situations and relationships are business imperatives. Business is all about relationships and relationships are people. Yet all too often business focus is on shareholder’s wealth first, customers second and then their people.

When I talk about growing the capability of the workforce’s emotional intelligence, I am not talking about more training programs per se but fundamentally embracing these concepts and embedding these values of developing people, implementing servant leadership, embracing authentic conversations to all be a core part of the business and its strategy. Ironically when businesses focus shifts to developing and growing their people their business dollar grows exponentially.  

My intention in writing this book is to take this corporate learning and give back to the wider community; to provide an opportunity to gain personal insights and self discovery so that you may live a life you choose. A life you are proud of, rather than one you simply settle for.

I passionately believe the more self aware we are as individuals, the more equipped we are to embrace the differences we find in other people. This in turn makes life more fulfilling, businesses more effective and efficient, communities more caring and families more tender.

It is our responsibility to honour our life’s purpose, to grow, to serve and to contribute to a more caring, connected and understanding world. My hope is that this book may act as a stone in a pond: assisting you to live a life you choose and in so doing support others to do the same, and others beyond them.

Thank you and enjoy the journey,
Choices in Action
Trina

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Our Emotions and Feelings


Recognising where our values and beliefs originate from is an essential part of understanding ourselves. Another is being cognisant of how our emotions and feelings impact who we are.Emotions are directly linked to our thinking and thus to our behaviour. Emotions are key indicators to what we truly think, so they play a large role in understanding ourselves more deeply.

Have you ever been in a situation where your emotions got the better of you and you wished you had acted or responded differently? We all have. When we recognise these moments, these feelings, only then can we manage our emotions, our thinking, and respond appropriately.

Unfortunately many of us have developed great skill in quashing or ‘managing’ our emotions and not really acknowledging how we feel, even to the point of viewing emotions as uncontrollable and/or irrational. We have become clumsy at detecting them, listening to the information they bring, and using their energy to propel us into constructive action and conversation. Managing your emotions does not mean suppressing them. It is about acknowledging them, understanding what they are trying to tell you, and using this knowledge to enhance a situation or to improve an outcome. Indeed, we feel something every moment of the day, yet we often block out this important information about what’s going on within and around us....

This book is designed to facilitate your journey in finding the missing elements to living a life you choose, elements that are within your reach. This life may be one filled with contentment, peace, and tranquillity or it may be a life of passion, excitement and worldly achievement – whatever you desire, whatever you choose.  It is written in your heart; you just need to look inside.